Lesson number three: They must have reasonable expectations.After a series of disheartening blind dates, I met a handsome young man who cast his net over me, completely bewitching me with his humor and charm.I would have to learn them on my own in the trenches.Men and women seem to cope differently with the collapse of a relationship.It would be a lie to say I didn't have any dating skills.Like most young women, I'd had plenty of dates that never went anywhere, and some memorable ones that eventually blossomed into relationships.In my experience, men are often more skilled (or at least faster) at getting back in the game.
Lesson number two: If there's no chemistry, do not pass go.
(Did I mention how wretchedly in need of some laughs I was by this point? He was such deliciously good company that it ensured his popularity with people in far loftier social circles than I.
Needless to say, the added complication of having a child was not a big attraction for him, either. Dating as a mother demands a new level of maturity.
Lesson number five: Date someone who gets your life.
After a disheartening slog through the dating trenches, I took a break and focused on other areas of my life that were sorely lacking.