But what's even lamer: when some outsider tries to use the language, without the ability to contribute. My friends and I would discuss how she was trying to speak like us, and it got to the point where I bristled every time I heard her speak one of our made-up words. Make sure you cater what you wear to what you're doing. I make myself look really picky and difficult to get to.
I try not to make a girl walk too much if she's in heels. The sea is very romantic, but I would be too nervous the entire time. While walking in the ocean I've stepped on some unidentified crustaceous creatures and we've both scuttled along away from one another in fear. Then, I get really tender and give all of my attention to this girl who thought she had no chance.
You can be making a total mistake, but as long as you're confident, it will turn out okay.
But if the baggage becomes apparent too early in the relationship, then a guy will probably bail.
Also, baggage causes people to put pressure on or damage a relationship, so it may be doomed from the outset. Commitment means that I've decided that the woman I'm settling down with is perfect and there is no one else out there for me.
I think the old adage "Girls mature faster than boys" comes into play here.
Commitment is a sign of maturity, and it just takes some of us longer. I know if a girl seems unsure of herself in bed, it gets distracting and starts to feel awkward.