I also wanted to weed out the men who wouldn’t be cool with those things, and I wanted to demonstrate that I have a sense of humor.Lots of my friends are divorced single parents, but not many have been single from the beginning, like me. I’m also really happy just being a mom, so naturally I’ve been hesitant to start dating again. Once she was born, I felt like I had found my total joy and purpose in life. What business did I have dating while my daughter was still so young? If you consider that I’ve been single since two days before I found out I was pregnant (when her dad and I broke up), however, I’ve been single for well over a year.Ansari makes a pretty solid case for using Tinder, especially for those in specific dating circumstances, like people with kids or of specific religions.When I lived in New York City, I tried Tinder briefly but didn’t feel it was the right fit for me.I knew that the dating pool was small where I live, but I was still surprised that so many guys were interested in dating a single mom. We chatted for a while but it was taking him forever to ask me out. He had a good job, too, but what really impressed me was that he was a very accomplished athlete.Again, we chatted a long time until finally I asked him out. When I lived in New York, guys never hesitated to ask me out.He wasn’t my usual “type” at all, which tends to be more artsy and progressive, but he made me laugh so much.
I ended up swiping right on a handful of guys (signaling to them that I was interested), and most of them were matches. He had a good job, was kind of a foodie, and really into sports. The next guy, “Mike,” was pretty cute, a single dad, divorced, and also a few years older than me. In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong. When I started seeing my husband, aka the first guy I wasn't embarrassed to tell my therapist about, I was gobsmacked to realize how much I hadn't known about dating before then.Finding a romantic partner is only one of many goals you can have at once. I’m a feminist single mom who lives with her parents, but if you think that’s as hilarious as I do, we might have something in common.